TRUST

 

When two people are together the only thing that matters are trust. I think trust is something that keeps you two together. Because even if any obstacle comes along, at least you two have each other.

However, the more trust you have in each other, the more is the probability that one of you will break the trust and lie. Sometimes, people do love each other but can’t be honest with each other. Why? Because, they feel you will not understand them. Even if the person who broke your heart is lying, you will eventually sense that there is something going on. However, you keep ignoring and go on loving the other person.

But, in the end you get to know that from day one, the person whom you blindly trust has been breaking your trust. In that very moment, you realize that love is nothing if two individuals doesn’t have trust on each other. But, even if they do, they are heart broken because the type of person they have chosen for themselves.

You get separated from them, and they are happy without you. They don’t feel a void because of your absence. There will be series of frustration, being disgusted, broken and crying. You will feel nothing inside because that person gave you hope and happiness at the same time. It was easy for them to let you go and love someone else. But you are the one who is left behind and you can’t do anything about even if you try.

With time you realize it was all planned from showing their love for you to letting you go. They were the ones who couldn’t see tears in your eyes and promised you heaven. But they were doing all of these tricks to pass their time. You made huge changes just to fit in their perfection list.

But the real question is “How can you move on?”

Honestly, there is no answer for this. Because everyone has a method of dealing with their anxieties and rejection. However, all I can say someday, for someone you will be a complete package for whom you don’t have to change yourself and be someone who you are not. It is very common falling out of love these days but make sure you don’t fall out of love for yourself. Maybe you meant to go through this journey of self realisation in order to know who you really are and what matters in your life.

You can have many defense mechanisms methods to deal with this kind of situation. But choose one wisely.  

 ESCAPE FROM YOURSELF

It is often said that what happens with us depends on what our life is destined to be and not what we think is going to happen. But we tend to control things and want the things to workout the way we wish to. 

However, I think that we often tend to get stuck in a situation from where there is no escape. Everything tends to move forward but you are still stuck at one point. In this kind of situation, you don’t know what to do, where to go, whom to talk to in order to know what you actually want in your life. The main question is to be or not to be! 

The choice is yours ‘You want to be in a situation where you are presently’ or ‘actually move forward and fulfill your dreams and aspirations.’

Its like at each and every step you are getting a signal to remove your old patterns and discover yourself and your potential but somehow you are stuck in your own comfort zone. At the same time, you are ambitious but with no wish to fulfill your ambitions. 

It is easy to say to start making changes in your day-to-day life which will take you closer to your ambitions. However, you are not able to do so. In such situations the biggest suggestion I would give is to go with the flow and start talking to yourself about what you actually want. May be what you always wanted to be is not the thing you want. 

These situations are not even easy to handle because when you are facing such scenarios along with it there is a lot of anxiety issues. Most of us at our age think it is very normal to have anxiety issues and over thinking. However, these breakthroughs are steps to depression which leads to being alone and away from others. Being completely in our own thoughts and not being able to express escalate into frustration which in turn leads to aggressiveness and suicidal attempts. 

If you ask me even, I don’t know the solution for such situations. But, the only suggestion from my side I can give isthat take help if you need, express your thoughts to somebody who you can trust and believe that he/she will not judge you in any circumstance. 

Sometimes a helping hand can save you from YOU! And I wish every person would have at least one person to talk to, who knows the real you!

It is not important to have a lot of friends in your life but only one friend who encourages you to move forward and pursue your dreams and aspirations. 

 

 

UNCERTAINTY OF THE FUTURE

Sometimes you feel this is it, this is all you want in your life. However, things don’t work out the way you want it to be. You can’t force things upon yourself and others too. If its mean to be, it will happen. You just have to wait for your turn and relax. You can’t prioritize everything but you can balance everything you want in your life. It can be your career, family, love or friends. You can’t just hold on to something for nothing.

You need to focus what matters to you and fall in love with it. Because my friend, if you have nobody to share your ideas, achievements, sorrows and failures then what kind of a life you are living. You got have a person who listens all your crappy jokes and laugh along with you, with whom have seen all the ups and downs in your life, and who loves you even more with the flaws. However, sometimes the person is in front of you but you still figuring out what kind of a person will be perfect for you. And you make mistakes choosing that one person. But if you won’t make mistakes then how will you figure out that the person you are being with is wrong and the person with whom you should be is ‘right in front of you’.

I know a lot of people have their own philosophy about love but my friend stop searching for love in the wrong person, instead let life attract the person with whom you are meant to be with.

But for that to happen, start loving the flaws in you! Because your flaws make you unique and special. So, don’t waste your time loving someone who doesn’t have the time to talk to you so that you can get to know each other.

Earlier when I used to read romantic novels and even rom-com movies I thought you have to change yourself to become perfect for someone to see the best in you. However, when I think about it know the philosophy that I had was completely wrong. Because you don’t need to change for someone instead you should change for yourself!

However, when you choose yourself over others, they start putting remarks on you because they had a habit of taking for granted and making you guilty about it. But my question is WHY? Is this fair to you? NO. You never stopped them for taking you for granted that is why they just don’t care much about you. You need to step back and notice all the red flags and act upon and LEAVE!

I know loving someone can be frustrating sometimes, but when you actually find THE ONE, then you will have no questions about. It will be just perfect in its own way.

And the puzzle of life will be complete.  

Till then just be who you want to be and I hope you find love in a way you never imagined.

LET LOVE MAKE ITS OWN WAY TO YOU!

Love

JW

 

PATTERN OF LIFE

Don’t you think it is sometimes frustrating to work every day in the same pattern. However, when you do, the only thing that comes in your mind is the fear of losing from others and specially losing your own self in order to match with the society’s ideal personality. We always try to be good in everything which other people expect you to be that is following the basic norm TO BE PERFECT. But is it fair to your own self?

Sometimes, you just don’t want to feel anything about anyone and just be your own crazy person who doesn’t have to think about anyone else and has the PERMISSION to do anything. Don’t you think the word permission that I specifically used is weird? YES, because nowadays we have to take permission from somebody else to become who we really are!!

For a lot of us this is very normal because from the beginning in home, schools we are taught to take permission from everyone! And we think this is what we have to do and therefore we don’t object over this issue. However, taking permission to become who you really wanted to be is crazy!

Every person has a crazy side within themselves but it’s just that we have to hide it to follow basic standard of the society.

For example, if you don’t succeed, people will give you a tag of LOSER. However, they don’t know that this tag can have a negative impact on one’s mind.

It is fear of losing that crushes one’s goal and self-confidence.  

Is it possible to have life without social pressure, mental tensions, and overthinking? YES! IF YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO DO SO. However, this becomes delusional as you can’t just escape from things that are happening around you. 

But people won’t let you be ‘YOU’. They will try to pull you down every time you try to push yourself towards your goals.

Some people say thinking constantly about the next work to do will make you a disciplined person. But it is so mentally consuming that makes you want to quit everything and just be yourself. However, you can’t just quit just like that. Because the life you have created for yourself is becoming difficult day by day which is making you unresponsive towards everything and you feel that quitting this chosen pattern of life will you weak and people will make fun of you.

It is often said that a smiling face is all you need but no one really cares about it that what if you are not happy with what you are doing right now. But you don’t even want to change it either because you have a fear in your mind that what if people will laugh at you and the new choices you have made.

Sometimes you just want to slow down and let it go because you have to become a winner in your own eyes and not in the minds of others because mentally pressurizing yourself to be perfect for your family, friends, and loved ones will ultimately frustrate you in some or the other way.

Ever day getting up and realizing that this is not what you want to do with your life will make you hate even more. The feeling of not able to do what you want and sometimes not having a control over it will ultimately make the situation worst!

So, try to be you and the one person others want you to be!!! It all depends on you that how you deal with your situation and the changes you make.

BE YOU PROUDLY!

 

MIND GAMES

Why is there always a feeling like everything is going wrong? why couldn’t we just calm ourselves that everything will be fine? Why is that nothing makes you happy anymore? Why it happens only to me?

It feels like we are being tested so far that can’t handle the pressure anymore and you just want to run from every situation and be happy. But this doesn’t happen, all those negative feelings cross your path again and again and you feel lonely and helpless. This in turns makes you think that there is no one with whom you can actually share your problems with because every person in your life is just busy with their own journey of life.

Sometimes I feel that I really need somebody to hold my hand and say that everything will be okay but in the very second moment, it feels that I’m enough for myself and don’t need anybody to help me. However, my question is why there is so much of confusion in life? When we finally feel that everything is sorted out, but next moment everything just falls apart. In this moment, you are not able to figure out what should be done to make yourself happy about yourself, the work you do, the hobbies you hold, the things you love.

People in this world are so selfish and the only thing they care about is themselves which is correct they should care about themselves but they should also look for people who need them and specially those who don’t ask for help because these kind of people have the most unstable mind.

I feel that having a negative perspective towards life is something that a person should avoid because these thoughts will make your life miserable. However, there is no escape. Even if you constantly try to control your emotions, the way you feel, ultimately you will be in a deep shell. These thoughts make your mind a volcano which will ultimately harm you in one way or the other.

 Its like you have so much to think about but you are not able to focus on one thing. People say that you must struggle every day to achieve more in life, but they don’t know that even if we choose to struggle everyday but at the end of the day everything falls apart again.

The most important question arises in my mind that how to cope up with these struggles? what to do and what not to do? But there are no answers to these questions because it depends person to person, some will walk through the struggle happily while some will go into depression thinking about how life is unfair to them. It is not that they are weak but instead they are not able to balance their emotions and feeling effectively and most importantly about what step should be taken to avoid such situations.

If you ask me, even I don’t have any suggestions to give because what is going on with the other person you really can’t tell just by looking at them. However, one thing I would say that just try to be with that person, because even if they don’t ask you to help them, but just by sitting beside them will make them feel that yes you will be there for them whenever they need you! Be a support system to them and make them smile!

STABILITY

 

Why is that we become so unstable in our own world? even if we try to attract positive vibes from people. But I think we often foolishly start to search happiness in other people but the question that arises in the mind a lot of times is that is it all worth it?

The idea of being stable in our minds is earning a good amount of money, having a house to live in but instead it should be the stability of mind which should be given prime importance in our lives. A person experiences sleepless night because of his own thoughts which is not healthy for his mind and body. A person who seems happy from outside is often the saddest from inside. In today's world nobody cares to think about the other person that how are they feeling; are they okay? Or is there something that is bothering them? The answer is NO! people act selfishly in this world of use and throw!

Instability of mind often leads to depression, anxiety, restlessness, aggressiveness which in turn leads to suicide!! This step is not a spontaneous act but a process of dying inside.

Life is not a bed of roses but is a process of events which changes an individual’s personality with time in accordance with the situations he faces in life. Some will experience instability within their minds because their life become full of struggles and hardships. However, the ones who suffer a lot in life often start realizing that life is little unfair with them and generate negative vibes within themselves. The ones who are closed to them try to make them realize that yes life is a roller-coaster, but it doesn’t mean that you should have negative thoughts about it.

But little did they know that even a one unfortunate event in life can have a drastic effect upon one’s mind. Only the person experiencing this kind of feeling knows the effects of it. You keep on thinking negative about life and yourself. As when these couple of events happen again and again the person starts to feel so negative about life that nothing good can happen to them. This kind of feeling is full of anxiety attacks, restlessness, and self-doubt.

Reading a book, going for a walk, talking to friends won’t help either. It is the person who has to fight with his thoughts every day to avoid this feeling but this feeling doesn’t go smoothly, rather it takes a lot of time and balancing of thoughts to get off these feelings.

Everyday you must fight in order to be avoid these feelings coming into your mind. At the end of the day it is you who must make amends with your thoughts. Don’t compare your path of life journey with another person’s path as everyone has its own path that they must find and explore.

Avoid self-doubt, don’t feel petty about yourself and explore your personality because my friend no one knows what shall happen in a second, in a second. So, enjoy life as its is with a smile on your face as this time shall pass.

Be who you are and the kind of personality that other people wants you to be even if it demands being along and having no one beside you.

Think positive and have trust on yourself. Don’t put yourself second in your own story.

And most importantly, BE YOU!!

PERSPECTIVE: IDEA OF YOUR PERSONALITY IN THE EYES OF OTHER PEOPLE

 

Often, there comes a question in my mind that why do people have to be mean to others? is this portrait them in a better light in front of others? why can’t they just be kind?

Nowadays, people have started to play a game called ‘USE AND THROW’ the only difference is that earlier people used to play this game with toys but now they have replaced these toys with people. How can somebody just use the other person and later on be mean to them? do they think by doing so they their personality will look bolder?

For me the answer is a complete ‘No’!

Why can’t just people stop judging and try to make some efforts in order to get to know the other person better? Why can’t they just let the other person live their life their own way?

Answer to such situations is ‘CONTROL’. First, they will make the person feel miserable about themselves and make them question their own personality then they will try to control their lives, their emotions, their personality. But my question is WHY? Is their any way to get away from such situations and toxic people?

Everyday a person cries from inside thinking that they won’t be able to smile again! It takes a lot of courage to let the things go and move on. But the people who create such situations for others are happy! Why don’t they realize the damage they have done to one’s mind is not correct and making a joke out of it is not funny!

In an era of social networking, people have forgotten the importance of empathy. They will show that they are concerned about you, but the reality is completely opposite of it.

It makes me think that would it be difficult to live alone? ‘Yes’ at first it will be difficult however, once you get used to it at least you will your mental peace back with you and most importantly no one would be able to control you, your life, your emotions, your personality!

However, you will try to do so, but you will be nervous about it also, won’t have any courage to do so! But my friend life is not easy, it is full of struggles. It just that we have to fight everyday to survive. After all, it is the survival of the fittest!!

Just think that this time shall pass, and again you will smile, laugh at your own mistakes and be proud of yourself no matter what because it is your life and you will control it not the other person.

The courage to stand alone is within you! Don’t think about others and do what your heart wants!

Most important lesson in life is the life itself, it teaches you everything with time so till then just be positive and stick to your personality, don’t let anyone ever take away that from you because it is full of magic.