MIND GAMES

Why is there always a feeling like everything is going wrong? why couldn’t we just calm ourselves that everything will be fine? Why is that nothing makes you happy anymore? Why it happens only to me?

It feels like we are being tested so far that can’t handle the pressure anymore and you just want to run from every situation and be happy. But this doesn’t happen, all those negative feelings cross your path again and again and you feel lonely and helpless. This in turns makes you think that there is no one with whom you can actually share your problems with because every person in your life is just busy with their own journey of life.

Sometimes I feel that I really need somebody to hold my hand and say that everything will be okay but in the very second moment, it feels that I’m enough for myself and don’t need anybody to help me. However, my question is why there is so much of confusion in life? When we finally feel that everything is sorted out, but next moment everything just falls apart. In this moment, you are not able to figure out what should be done to make yourself happy about yourself, the work you do, the hobbies you hold, the things you love.

People in this world are so selfish and the only thing they care about is themselves which is correct they should care about themselves but they should also look for people who need them and specially those who don’t ask for help because these kind of people have the most unstable mind.

I feel that having a negative perspective towards life is something that a person should avoid because these thoughts will make your life miserable. However, there is no escape. Even if you constantly try to control your emotions, the way you feel, ultimately you will be in a deep shell. These thoughts make your mind a volcano which will ultimately harm you in one way or the other.

 Its like you have so much to think about but you are not able to focus on one thing. People say that you must struggle every day to achieve more in life, but they don’t know that even if we choose to struggle everyday but at the end of the day everything falls apart again.

The most important question arises in my mind that how to cope up with these struggles? what to do and what not to do? But there are no answers to these questions because it depends person to person, some will walk through the struggle happily while some will go into depression thinking about how life is unfair to them. It is not that they are weak but instead they are not able to balance their emotions and feeling effectively and most importantly about what step should be taken to avoid such situations.

If you ask me, even I don’t have any suggestions to give because what is going on with the other person you really can’t tell just by looking at them. However, one thing I would say that just try to be with that person, because even if they don’t ask you to help them, but just by sitting beside them will make them feel that yes you will be there for them whenever they need you! Be a support system to them and make them smile!

STABILITY

 

Why is that we become so unstable in our own world? even if we try to attract positive vibes from people. But I think we often foolishly start to search happiness in other people but the question that arises in the mind a lot of times is that is it all worth it?

The idea of being stable in our minds is earning a good amount of money, having a house to live in but instead it should be the stability of mind which should be given prime importance in our lives. A person experiences sleepless night because of his own thoughts which is not healthy for his mind and body. A person who seems happy from outside is often the saddest from inside. In today's world nobody cares to think about the other person that how are they feeling; are they okay? Or is there something that is bothering them? The answer is NO! people act selfishly in this world of use and throw!

Instability of mind often leads to depression, anxiety, restlessness, aggressiveness which in turn leads to suicide!! This step is not a spontaneous act but a process of dying inside.

Life is not a bed of roses but is a process of events which changes an individual’s personality with time in accordance with the situations he faces in life. Some will experience instability within their minds because their life become full of struggles and hardships. However, the ones who suffer a lot in life often start realizing that life is little unfair with them and generate negative vibes within themselves. The ones who are closed to them try to make them realize that yes life is a roller-coaster, but it doesn’t mean that you should have negative thoughts about it.

But little did they know that even a one unfortunate event in life can have a drastic effect upon one’s mind. Only the person experiencing this kind of feeling knows the effects of it. You keep on thinking negative about life and yourself. As when these couple of events happen again and again the person starts to feel so negative about life that nothing good can happen to them. This kind of feeling is full of anxiety attacks, restlessness, and self-doubt.

Reading a book, going for a walk, talking to friends won’t help either. It is the person who has to fight with his thoughts every day to avoid this feeling but this feeling doesn’t go smoothly, rather it takes a lot of time and balancing of thoughts to get off these feelings.

Everyday you must fight in order to be avoid these feelings coming into your mind. At the end of the day it is you who must make amends with your thoughts. Don’t compare your path of life journey with another person’s path as everyone has its own path that they must find and explore.

Avoid self-doubt, don’t feel petty about yourself and explore your personality because my friend no one knows what shall happen in a second, in a second. So, enjoy life as its is with a smile on your face as this time shall pass.

Be who you are and the kind of personality that other people wants you to be even if it demands being along and having no one beside you.

Think positive and have trust on yourself. Don’t put yourself second in your own story.

And most importantly, BE YOU!!

PERSPECTIVE: IDEA OF YOUR PERSONALITY IN THE EYES OF OTHER PEOPLE

 

Often, there comes a question in my mind that why do people have to be mean to others? is this portrait them in a better light in front of others? why can’t they just be kind?

Nowadays, people have started to play a game called ‘USE AND THROW’ the only difference is that earlier people used to play this game with toys but now they have replaced these toys with people. How can somebody just use the other person and later on be mean to them? do they think by doing so they their personality will look bolder?

For me the answer is a complete ‘No’!

Why can’t just people stop judging and try to make some efforts in order to get to know the other person better? Why can’t they just let the other person live their life their own way?

Answer to such situations is ‘CONTROL’. First, they will make the person feel miserable about themselves and make them question their own personality then they will try to control their lives, their emotions, their personality. But my question is WHY? Is their any way to get away from such situations and toxic people?

Everyday a person cries from inside thinking that they won’t be able to smile again! It takes a lot of courage to let the things go and move on. But the people who create such situations for others are happy! Why don’t they realize the damage they have done to one’s mind is not correct and making a joke out of it is not funny!

In an era of social networking, people have forgotten the importance of empathy. They will show that they are concerned about you, but the reality is completely opposite of it.

It makes me think that would it be difficult to live alone? ‘Yes’ at first it will be difficult however, once you get used to it at least you will your mental peace back with you and most importantly no one would be able to control you, your life, your emotions, your personality!

However, you will try to do so, but you will be nervous about it also, won’t have any courage to do so! But my friend life is not easy, it is full of struggles. It just that we have to fight everyday to survive. After all, it is the survival of the fittest!!

Just think that this time shall pass, and again you will smile, laugh at your own mistakes and be proud of yourself no matter what because it is your life and you will control it not the other person.

The courage to stand alone is within you! Don’t think about others and do what your heart wants!

Most important lesson in life is the life itself, it teaches you everything with time so till then just be positive and stick to your personality, don’t let anyone ever take away that from you because it is full of magic.

 

 

A little sparkle

 

When you come at that point of time where you don’t have anybody, and everything is going against you what would you do? What would you expect?

But then there comes a person who himself going through a lot in his life but turns your black and white life into a colorful one. It feels like the time is the same but with that person you just feel so comfortable and you think that everything will be good in the end. He makes you feel that yes life is difficult but at the same time it is beautiful, but you must change your perspective in order to feel that change.

If you have a go to person with whom you just be yourself and you don’t need a filter to enjoy and fake it. That bond becomes so comforting and so pure that you both don’t need anybody else for entertainment.

People will always try to control you and make you feel bad for the decisions you have made, but remember after every struggle there is always a time when it seems its all over, you just cannot take it and it feels nothing is good for you. But when this person comes in your life who makes the struggle even more entertaining and you just laugh it out all of a sudden. You start to enjoy this struggle with happy tears of laugh.

You will get a lot of negative energy in your life but ultimately you will end up with a person who will be there for you no matter what. You both will fight, laugh, and enjoy your life as it is even when you both are at your worst time ever, but still life will seem perfect.

Sometimes celebrating your sorrows and bad times is even better because you must let it out from your system. Everyone in their life will eventually find someone who will be ENOUGH for them. Some will find this kind of bond in their partners, while some in their best friends.

People say you must deal with your sorrows by your own, however every person need a companion and a support who will be there for you no matter what you do, who will keep you in track and push you towards your goals. But most importantly, MAKE YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR OWN SELF.

So, keep on finding yourselves and be positive that its just the matter of time. It will ultimately make stronger and wiser.

DON’T BE SORRY FOR BEING YOU !

And never regret for being with someone who makes countless efforts to add sparkle your life in every way.

Why there is a constant fight with your mind and heart? why can’t we be just free from our thoughts? Why is there a constant trap within our own thoughts?

Every day I try to find answers to all my questions, but nothing changes. It’s like life does give chances to change every day, but I just don’t want to change anything.

However, people always try to manipulate your thoughts. The funniest part in this situation is that we do listen to people, and just give up our thoughts and follow their instructions in order to maintain peace with other people. By doing so, we often forget that it is our own life and we shouldn’t listen to other people and do what your heart says.

People say this phrase all the time ‘find happiness with other people’ but little did they know that you are already trapped within your own thoughts, feeling confused about what to do and not to do.

WE WANT FREEDOM! WE WANT FREEDOM! We usually use this phrase whenever we feel that other people are just pressurizing us to become what we are not! We make a fake personality of ourselves and don’t realize that the image we have created in front of others is actually not who we are and therefore we start seeing things the way people want us to see. By doing so we get TRAPPED! But does life give us the freedom to be free again like a bird? Without any regrets? NO!

It’s a normal thing for people to say that ‘you are a fighter, learn to struggle with your own battles’, ‘talk to your friends’. However, they forget that you are constantly trying to be happy rather I would say LOOK HAPPY!

Nowadays, people have become so cold hearted that don’t want to empathise with you but rather make fun of you and your feeling of being depressive. They will make you feel that you are not worth it in some way or the other. However, on social networking sites, they will act as if they are concerned about you and your well-being! But little did they know when somebody is feeling worthless inside, there is no going back from your own thoughts! Sometimes it feels like to say you know what let me be who I am and not the version that you want me to be! Stop controlling my life!

But we don’t tell them to shut up, instead we make our own self feel WORTHLESS and cry alone in our room! In addition to that we make ourselves feel miserable about everything we do or want to do.

However, the big question is WHY WE LET THEM DO THAT WITH US, WITH OUR LIVES? 

They will try to give suggestions about what to do and what not to do with your life and what you should have done with your life so that your life situations could have been different. DO YOU HAVE THE COURAGE TO FIGHT WITH YOUR OWN FEELINGS?

It’s not other person’s responsibility to make you happy all the time But its YOU who has to make peace with your own self that yes you have to make mistakes to know that YOU are important!

They say ‘Get through your own battles all by yourself’ but how? Nobody has the answer to that. Therefore, ask yourself what is it that make you happy? and answers will vary person to person but at least you would know that all you want is peace with your own self, your own thoughts!!!

You don’t need anybody to make you feel less about yourself, you are a magic in your own way for which you don’t have to be answerable to anybody and feel guilty about it. Be proud of who you are, and I must repeat ‘ALWAYS BE YOUR OWN HERO’.

Frustration might sound like a roller-coaster, but it is actually true! People keep overthinking each time they hit rock bottom in their life. Why is this happening to me? why am I feeling this way? Why am I stuck in my own thoughts? Therefore, we keep looking for answers in other people. However, the only thing which should be the most significant part of your life is YOU!

Learn to SPEAK for yourself they say haha but how? How you would be able to shut the people out of your life just like that? Is it easy? Is it worth it?

 

 

When life teaches you things that you never wanted to experience

Sometimes life becomes so hard that you don’t know how to react to the certain situations that came your way. You feel trapped inside your own thoughts! and when you thought things are getting better, BOOOOM! You are trapped yet again!
“Life is a complete roller-coaster” you realize this phrase is actually true when life hits you hard on the face, and in that situation you become completely numb and quite, entering in your own world. During this time, other people think that you are just having mood swings or having a bad day, but no one notices the sadness behind your fake smile. You feel like crying every day without knowing that when it will end. It’s like you want to share your feelings so badly with someone and the other minute you just want to be alone in one corner in your room trying to calm yourself down. However, nothing changes!!

You feel all alone even when everyone is around you. Some say it’s the struggle that counts which will pump you up to fight each day, but it becomes worse by each passing day.
Some people will walk with you in your difficult times while some other will just laugh at your situation or some will try to maintain a distance from you.
In one moment you want to be positive, thinking that everything will be fine and you will keep trying to achieve your goal but when your dream shatters knowing that no one is there with whom you can share your achievements and sorrows that’s when you realize life is actually very hard.!!
Everyone around you try to make you understand that you know be positive , read a book , go for a walk but you don’t know how to start or should I say when to start. People will provide you with the options on how to be happy and have happy thoughts, but they don’t know you are being trapped in your own thoughts. Therefore, the big question is HOW CAN YOU ESCAPE FROM YOUR OWN THOUGHTS! YOUR OWN LIFE?